Wednesday, October 15, 2014

31 Days to a Peaceful Holiday Season: Gifting others.

Welcome to Almond Place! I hope you've been enjoying the series so far and that you'vee found some ideas to help make your holiday season a little more stress free! You can find all of the previous posts in my series HERE.

Today I want to talk about gifts for others...anyone not living in your household. Now, if you're like us, you have a large extended family with many brothers and sisters and have many nieces and nephews, friends, friends' kids, your boss, kids' teachers, and people who regularly help you out. 

We love each and every one of these people. 

But we do not feel obligated to gift every single one of these people.

Our reality is such that we are not in a financial place to buy every single one of them a gift. One day, we know we will be but for now, we are unable to give gifts to others due to our financial focus on our debt snowball.

I hope this doesn't sound selfish because I certainly don't mean it to be, but we've simply had to reign this in. And you know what? 

I do not feel guilty.

Because this money will get us out of debt and it will ultimately allow us to bless others even more when we aren't bound by that debt. I do not feel guilty because our friends and family understand this and I don't believe they are offended by it... and if they are?  Well, they're certainly not saying anything!

Here's what we will do if we are able to swing it...we will contribute some money towards each of the kids' teacher gifts. We will find some of our favorite photos of the kids, have them printed and sent off to the grandparents. I will do my best to find something for my nieces and nephews in a reasonable price range ($20-30). We have 6 of them so if I go higher than that, it adds up very quickly.

I also recognize that this gift giving state for us is temporary. I am excited for the days where I don't have to be so conscientious of how we gift others, but this is how it is for now.

Are any of you in the same boat we are? Are you feeling bummed about it, or okay with it? Do you have a different strategy that I do and want to share?  I'd love to hear your ideas!


  1. Yep, and the number of people in families grow, it's hard to get them all in. We try to limit to grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and teachers. I have two brothers on my side, so we have started a name drawing tradition, so we don't have to buy for everyone. I think that could possibly happen with the cousins some day. Also, cute free printables in a frame are always a great teacher gift!

    1. Exactly, Becky! It just got to be so overwhelming for me to buy that many gifts...even though we are family, we all live all over the country and dare I say, don't know each other "that" well simply by the fact that we hardly ever see each other. I still have a 2 year old nephew I've never met! Hoping once the cousins are a little older we can do that secret santa...that way they get a more substantial gift and hopefully get to know their cousins a little better :-)