Tuesday, March 31, 2015

40 Bags in 40 Days Update: Tuesday Talk

Hi there!  Welcome back to Tuesday Talk here at Almond Place!

Be sure to check out all of the posts from your lovely hosts here:

Becky from BYBMG,
Beth from Our Pretty Little Girls,
Whitney from The Polka Dotty Place,
Elizabeth from All Kinds of Things,
Tara from Mrs.Coach Sims,
Keri from Living In This Season,
Sarah from Abiding In Grace,
Lauren from Simply Free ,
Andrea from Mitchael Journey,
Jessica & Katie from Sweet Little Ones,
Teressa from Teressa Jane

So the past month has been an insane one around here....it's all been my own doing.  I've taken on too much work and it's made things extra challenging.  My schedule is a wreck, my house is a wreck, my kids are pushing the limits, and a busted oven means we've been limited to the stovetop and microwave all week.  I know, I know, these are all first world problems...I'm very aware of that, but it's still enough to make me feel uncomfortable and out of control.

So, what's one way I can regain control?  I purge.  That's my go-to stress reliever and it never fails.

I'm a little behind on the areas I wanted to focus on for #40bagsin40days and not having enough time to truly tackle them until later on this week, I was feeling my anxiety rising...so I took on a project I knew I could manage.

Social Media.

I love it.  I use it multiple times a day.  It has helped connect me with so many amazing women and I have loved meeting many of these people in real life.  But something was really starting to get to me...

Now, this is a hot topic....we so quickly add friends, acquaintances, pages, and companies to our timelines.  This has become a bad habit for me.  Being a blogger means I am bombarded with "page like requests", and friend adds....which is wonderful because I have met so many amazing people through these online communities, however, I was feeling overwhelmed.  I could no longer keep up with the people I wanted to keep up with because my feeds were filled with other "stuff".

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I noticed one of my favorites from Instagram hadn't shown up in my feed in over 2 weeks...it took me a while to realize I hadn't heard/seen from her...sure enough, IG had decided to put her stuff on the back burner for me and show me a bunch of other stuff they felt was more important.

So this week, I said ENOUGH.  No more random page likes. No more Round Robin giveaways (I never win that stuff anyway), and no more holding onto "friends" who aren't people I'm truly interested in sharing our personal family story with.

I took several days to do this and I still have more work to do.  It's not easy.  I worry about offending people.  I worry about letting go of that one friend I basically had a falling out with, (but we still have to see each other often enough)...that she will use that "unfriending" as ammunition. I worry about hurting those bloggers who are struggling to find their voices and are carefully counting numbers.

But here's the thing...I am drowning in "noise".  I want my IG and Facebook to be filled with the people I love and admire.  I want to be uplifted and inspired, not left feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated.  I want to spend less time keeping up with people on Facebook and be able to keep up with my real live people in front of me.

I want to make it clear that it's not that there was anything wrong with these pages or people....not that they aren't worth a read, or worthy of my time....it's just that there are SO many inspirational people out there, I can't possibly keep up!

I KNOW this will touch a nerve with some people.  So, I'm wondering...how do you manage your social media?  Are you protective of it?  Do you take every request? Is anyone else feeling the way I'm feeling?

I can tell you that today was the first day I noticed  a real difference.  When I check FB in the morning, until the time I checked it the afternoon, I was able to scroll through quickly enough that I caught up to the morning posts.  People who were missing from IG were suddenly there again!  It was awesome to feel happy after reading through these posts, and not sucked dry. I was in a better mood all day!


  1. I am loving your thoughts on this - So glad you're sharing!!


  2. Good for you! I did a round robin once on IG and said never again, I just don't have the time to like 27 people in a round robin. I also dislike they never tell you how many people are in it, so you're just sitting there liking things and people you have no interest in. I try not to like things unless I truly like them, so good for you! A plus is that they probably won't know it's you specifically that unliked them...so there's that.

  3. Well, new blogger here (hit the 3 month mark) and I don't do facebook, never have and I know some bloggers tell me I should, would get more traffic, well it comes with a price I am not willing to pay. I don't twitter, or anything other than the parties, and instagram. Even Pinterest can drive me crazy. There is just so many hours in a day. So good for you! I think everyone has to make it work for them. I hope I get follower because they like what I have to write about and will keep me in their feeds via bloglovin and instagram.